When we describe ourselves as different and unique we fail to recognize that our similarities outweigh our differences. A normal human being has; 2 eyes, 1 nose, 1 mouth, 2 ears, 2 hands, 10 fingers, 2 arms, 2 legs, 10 toes, etc. Although we see ourselves as different, I would wager that a bear only sees us as human, just another animal in the woods. After all a bear is a bear and a human is a human. If a bear is born with 3 legs rather than 4, they still have the instinct to hibernate. Physical abnormalities do not affect our actions and decisions. If we are born with 1 arm, this physical abnormality does not affect our “Normal” attributes. If a bear went south for the winter instead of hibernating, this would be abnormal.
Abnormal behavior is not the lack of one or more of the 7 attributes of “Normal” rather an extreme of one or more. The bear who goes south for the winter is likely pushing the limits of one or more of their instincts then missing one. If a person washes their hand 12 times each time they use the rest room, their extreme addiction to washing their hands makes them abnormal.
If a person pushes their risk attribute above normal limits they would be classified as abnormal. An extreme sports participant is pushing their risk of death while the person suffering from Agoraphobia is pushing their risk of not living a normal life.
A “Normal” person feels pity, fear or admiration for a abnormal individual. An abnormal person will stand out from the rest. The actions of an abnormal individual affect the emotions of a “Normal” person. When we are faced with abnormalities, immediately we compare ourselves to them. If we perceive this person to be inferior to us, then we will take pity. If we feel this person is superior, we will admire them. From the above example we would likely admire the extreme sports participant and take pity on the Agoraphobic person.
Sometimes an abnormal behavior makes us feel fear. This comes from our inability to relate to the abnormality. For example a serial killer who is pushing their need for happiness to an abnormal extreme does not command admiration or pity, but instead creates fear in a “Normal” person who cannot relate to this extreme for happiness.
Whether we pity the compulsive hand washer or fear the mass murderer, these emotions are caused by the extreme actions of abnormal people. Actions are what define abnormalities. Our thoughts of abnormal behavior are common. We may dream about exhibiting abnormal behavior, but without action, these fantasies are “Normal”.